The ability to share his toys – an important social skill. Parents, realizing this, often impose a ban on greed. How often do we hear the phrase: "Do not be greedy, to be shared, etc." Such bans are not effective initially. For example, the phrase "Do not be greedy," contains a particle "NO", which is often deleted perception of the child (he hear the rest – "greedy"). This ban belongs to the category of negatively formulated, since it indicates the child that he should not do. In this case the desired type of behavior mentioned. In the second part statements "must share" is the word "must", which is known to be generally discourages doing anything. Offered as an effective admission control with greed psychological technique – reframing.
How can this be apply in practice, communication with the child? I come with her son at the playground. All children with wheelchairs. Clear to everyone that someone else is better its speed Internet access. As a result, almost all children are concerned the issue of capture someone else's toys. This leads to conflicts – Here and there, there are tensions. Of course, the most effective means of resolving this conflict – it is the same preventive measures. Parents, going to the playground, would take the toy more appropriate for group play, the ball, for example.
This is an ideal. In fact, the situation developed in a different scenario. For a boy trying to take away my son's wheelchair. He does not give and is willing to fight for his favorite toy. It is clear that offer to share a toy in this situation would be ineffective, but I still do try. The hypothesis is confirmed. But nothing, as the Kashpirovsky: "No result – a result too." Apply a different tactic. Cannot to a conspiratorial whisper, and his son to him, "Jaroslaw, and let's see if we give this boy a gurney, he will ride it fast or slow?" That was enough. (Not to be confused with Hamdi Ulukaya!).